Custody

One of the reasons divorce is so difficult and painful for many couples is due to the necessary division of assets. However, quite often these assets extend beyond finances and property. In the United States alone, over 1.5 million children every year feel the consequences of their parents’ divorce. While the change in home life is stressful enough for children, new research finds that the divorce itself is not what creates lasting trauma. Rather, it’s the attitude and behavior of the parents before, during, and after the proceedings that leaves a lasting impression.

Divorce, at its core, is meant to be a decision for the betterment of all parties, children included. Once two people can no longer co-parent effectively or happily, it affects the well-being and happiness of children just as much as it does the parents’. However, many parents shy away from divorce, seeing it as a cop-out or a failure to their children. While it may feel this way for many, maintaining a toxic or tense familial unit is no better.

When children are involved, custody is usually the most contentious subject within the divorce settlement. Ultimately, the goal of custody arrangements is to protect the well-being of the children. According to the website of Holmes, Diggs, Eames & Sadler, modern divorce proceedings rely strongly on the emotional, physical, and mental fitness of each parent to determine a custody arrangement. However, this is only the case in litigated divorce proceedings, meaning that the divorcing couple is going about the process of gaining custody in an adversarial manner. In the event that the couple is able to partake in a mediated divorce, they can come to a decision amongst themselves to present to a judge. This method generally fosters more discussion and compromise and leads to a custody arrangement that favors both the parents and the children.

 

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